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I haven't watched Dancing with the Stars in a while, but it caught my attention today. While scrolling through my Facebook feed, I came across a post from The Today Show about comments the judges made to Simone Biles. They asked her why she wasn't smiling and she bravely came back at them with "smiling doesn't win you gold metals". Now apparently they had commented on her emotion and her smiling in her previous dances that evening, and the last one of the night did not break the camels back. I just have to say BRAVO Simone, BRAVO! 

This has been a pet peeve of mine for a long time, and most of the time - in my experience - has come from men. "smile" "you should smile" "why don't you smile". In Simone's circumstance it came from two women - and that almost bothers me more. I don't tend to see women do that. I feel like we know better, because so often men feel they have the right to say it to us.

I used to work in a restaurant. In a very affluent town. With a high percentage of older clientele, and plenty of men to boot. I can not tell you how many times I got the "smile" comment from these men. And these weren't moments when I was engaging with them, I wasn't taking their order, I wasn't serving them - when yes, you would expect your waitstaff to wear a happy face - I'm cleaning a counter, bagging food, stocking product. I'm not a "smiler" in general. That doesn't mean I'm unhappy. Maybe it means I don't want all my emotions shown on my face. Maybe it means I'm in deep thought 95% of my day. Maybe it is none of their business to comment on how I present my outer skin, my body, my face. Would a man say that to another man? I highly doubt it. Nor have I ever seen or heard it happen. 

So thank you Simone Biles for shutting it down on national television.


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Laura HenryComment